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I need advice |
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I've been married for over 18 years and faithful the whole time. Lately, though, I've been kind of bored. After this much marriage, there are no surprises left and whatever romance we once had has been over for a long time. I don't want to do anything stupid, like have an affair (my friend did that and it was a disaster!). I'd like to spice things up and would appreciate some suggestions. Thanks in advance to anyone who can help. |
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| By: bern | |
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I'm glad you have been faithful. Find the romance with your wife, bring her a present, do something special even if you don't think she deserves it...a night out at a theatre, a fancy restaurant..show her you are making an effort. Court her, remind her and yourself of what attracted you to her in the first place. Sing Eishes Chayal at the Shabbat table and look her in the eye and smile. Make her feel special and loved. Ask her for her advice or share a part of your day with her that your normally haven't. Keep doing it and she will respond. Nuzzle the back of her neck but don't make a pest of yourself, if she doesn't seem to appreciate it and not while she is making dinner. Leave her little notes on the refrigerator and tell her you love her, call her from work, tell her you miss her. A happy wife means a happy life and if she sees you viewing her as a romantic and beloved being and treat her kindly and respectively listen (not hear!!!! LISTEN) to what she has to share....the motor will definitely be buzzing and things won't be so boring. Come home with a funny greeting card that shows your intentions, or a stuffed little teddy bear, or her favourite bath oils or buy her a video of a film that you know that she loved. Show her that she is special and believe me you will see appreciation and affection. Take her on a romantic weekend or an overnight in a hotel with a jaccuzzi built for two. Eighteen years is not a really long time, but it can seem that way if you don't put the effort in. Happy romance!!! Great way to start the new year. Hashem wants a man to make his woman happy...and the couple will be deliriously happy too! |
| here I am 15 Sep 4PM |
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Uhm Bern is a woman. |
| Anonymous - Fact Checker - 15 Sep 5PM |
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At the time I answered there was no indication what gender Bern was and the way it was written I assumed, in error, it was a man. Same advice, give and be loving, throw some surprises his way and urge him to surprise you. Listen and mirror what he says and encourage him to do the same. Communication is key, show him your adventurous side and encourage him to show his. Good luck and shana tova. |
| here I am 17 Sep 2AM |
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Just curious, does anybody think this was a real post? I mean writing but not via anonymous in such a matter is asking for a divorce. |
| Harper 18 Sep 3PM |
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Just curious, does anybody think this was a real post? I mean writing but not via anonymous in such a matter is asking for a divorce. |
| Harper 18 Sep 3PM |
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It could be the real deal or someone trying to get their jollies by posting this. In any event, there are articulating some common malaise in a predictable marital situatlon and perhaps they have done a service to send this, as a wakeup call for the rest of us to remember what one must do to keep our marriages fresh and not take our partners for granted for those who are married and for those of us who are not, it is good food for thought and we can be better armed to do our best when we do marry, to work at keeping that 'flame' going and ensure that it is a strong flame and doesn't become extinquished. shana tova. |
| here I am 18 Sep 11PM |
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