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| i have been asked to find friends for j | [5] | here I am | 5 May 15:17 | 19 Mar 12:05 | ||
| children of divorce | [18] | Anonymous | 19 Jan 00:22 | 1 Dec 17:08 | ||
| Does anyone else take offense to this? | [10] | Anonymous | 3 Mar 14:11 | 24 Oct 17:33 | ||
| hi any married guys here who are conside | [2] | yankle770 | 19 Oct 11:01 | 23 Oct 14:29 | ||
| Tsarfatit | [0] | imAriRuti | 16 Oct 20:12 | 16 Oct 20:12 | ||
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Does anyone else take offense to this? |
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| I see postings quite often for 'Singles4singles' events. After reading them I always feel a little offended when they say, women should, "plan to cover their hair after marriage and wear skirts and dresses only." I understand the cover the hair shpiel but skirts and dreasses only? Why don't they also make it clear, they mean below the the knee? Either way I don't think it is appropriate to make clothing a reason for restriction to a singles group. Every time I read this it disturbs me to no end. Does anyone else feel this way? | |
| By: Anonymous - Fancy Pants | |
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Maybe these "single events" are just trying to "weed out" the type of Orthodox women they are interested in coming to these events. As you know there are numerous Modern Orthodox women who wear skirts but may also wear pants on occassion. and not cover their hair but are still very much Orthodox. Those who are arranging therse dating event are not lioking for these type of Lrthodox women but those who they consider more to the "right". And yes, I do find it offendsive but I am a Jew of color so if I was to attend most likely no one would talk to me anyway!!!! |
| Bechirah 4 Mar 4PM |
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Wearing pants and convering your hair are two very separate items which have nothing to do with each other. And I understand a statement about wanting those that cover their hair, but the statement about only wearing skirts makes no sense at all. Also, there are plenty of people who would wear pants and cover their hair - because again these are two totally separate things. And so there may be those that wear pants and would not cover their hair, there are also plenty women that wear pants that would cover their hair. |
| Anonymous - Fancy Pants - 4 Mar 7PM |
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I feel kinda hurt when I see those ads. I have attended 1 or 2 of them and actually know the organizer, but I don't feel I fit into that mold (or not sure) so I don't attend them anymore. At the moment, I wear pants on occasion and am open to skirts only and covering my hair, but feel their description is too narrow . Obviously any organizer can create an event to their liking. If you want to attend, I'm sure you can probably get in, but it may not be your type of crowd. I think the idea behind it was for the organizer who is single to find a mate as well as help others. Running events like this allow orthodox singles who are "with it" another way to meet since mixed event were rules assur by the moder rabonim and no mixed seating or dancing at simchas. If you don't use the shadchan system or one of the online "rabincally approved" dating sites, here you can "meet on your own". |
| Anonymous - KR - 6 Mar 1PM |
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The idea that this is a guys idea of lining up women that fits his personal preferences disgusts me even more. |
| Anonymous - Fancy Pants - 6 Mar 8PM |
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He is not lining up women that fit his criteria.. he is genuinely trying to help people. I know him personally and he has a really good heart. I can't say I necessarily agree with the criteria though.. I find it to be really superficial. But unfortunately, so many people use these types of superficial criteria to decide whether they want to date someone or not. And while I fit both of those criteria.. I've never been to one of the events because I don't think there will be anyone there for me due to other criteria that is more liberal minded. Bottom line... you can either accept it for what it is... go or not go... or email him and tell him your feelings in a tactful and appropriate way. It never hurts to give constructive criticism to try to change things that you find offensive. |
| Bay 10 Mar 10AM |
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I'm an "older guy" and am not living anywhere near to the sites of these get-togethers" . But, from what I read, it looks as if I'd be thrown out if I did attend. So where does that leave me?? Nowhere, of course, but where I already am. And, it looks as if the ladies in my age group show a disturbing reticence to sending in a photo, which makes my choice of "pen-pal" even more limited. (Am I committing a present-day "faux-pas" by referring to them as "ladies", perhaps that term has gone out of style since I was "foot-loose" etc. |
| Anonymous - Bluto - 20 Mar 11PM |
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I think the whole singles 4 singles concept is ridiculous. Actually most singles events are. |
| Anonymous - 27 Mar 2AM |
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I assume that these events have similar criteria for the guys, like "black hat", or something? |
| a2ari 24 Oct 5PM |
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